Stop waiting...... Happiness is a journey, not a destination
Extracted this from Wu Zhun's blog.... Think i have read it somewhere before ....
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We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another.
Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are.
After that we're frustrated that we have teen-agers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.
We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.
The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
One of my favourite quotes from Alfred D'Souza. Ha said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin—Real Life. But they was always some abstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were in my life."
This perspective has helped me see that there is no way to happiness. Hapiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with… and remember that time waits for no one!!!
So Stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose 10 pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, unitl you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until when???
Until you got no more chance to decide that there is no Better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
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Very true, isnt it?
I have been making these kinds of statements all my life...
Job will be better after i clear this, clear that, get more headcounts.
Opera will be better after i have mastered how to sing more soothingly.
I would have more security after i have saved up some money.
My health will be better after i have losed some weights.
My bosses will have better impressions after i have up my dressing and improved my grooming.
I would have more time for my parents and loved ones after i have settled my job problems....
I always say i will do this. Will do that.
But things are stil the same after 5 years, after 10 years, after 15 years.
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There are always loads of things that can be better.
I always have a long list of things to do. Things i hope.
But the sad thing is we may not have chance to do what we really want to do - if we always keep waiting for things to be better 1st.
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2 Comments:
hey dear juan aka my rain shelter partner;
you know what? i am so glad to see you having the vision now:) i used to be like that too, always wanted so much things in life and perceiving life would be better if this, if that...i am oso a idealistic person and only after last year, i realized that i should not be the kind of person i or others pictured myself to be. instead one should be lead by their own heartstring. hope i can share something with you since our lifestyle is quite similar..well guess all these years we have been spending too much time on work and accomplishment eg.opera (we are the fortunate ones-we have a good job and very interesting hobby) but HANG ON! at the end of the day, work is still work, love your job but not the company, cos you never know when the company will stop loving you (no one is indispensable)at the end of the day, it is just a ricebowl to maintain our lifestyle..the past i will choose to go back to office on a long weekend but today, i choose to rest at mom's new house watching chinese opera, sing ktv, shopping catch a movie, even to the beach with mom, hubby & dog (surprise? ya, me too! cos many a time i neglect my closer ones just to give time to work and other commitments) me at the learing stage towards work-life balance too.i made a point to catch up with diff.gps of frens and spend more time with family and not to forget the most impt person in my life....myself! squeezing time for oneself is so impt, you know? well, enuff nagging! a qoute to share:
Yesterday is PAST
Tomorrow is FUTURE
Today is here, now..thats why we call it the PRESENCE (present)
cheers to you & dun forget what you PROMISE ME coming FEB'09.
i should learn from you guys... i think my main prob is that i care too much abt wat others think of me.. that's y i tried to perform better and better to show these people.. it's an endless cycle and i'm getting pretty stressed up and overwhelmed.. i've been trying to psycho myself to let go and relax more, and i'm still trying to.. but it's pretty hard as yet..
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